How to be Beautiful

We, as women obsess over our weight. We see on TV, movies and adds these beautiful very skinny girls. Yes, they are very pretty. Yes, they can make any outfit under a size two look great. But for most women having a figure like that is not even physically possible.

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I am very happy to say that over the last few months I have lost 30 pounds. It feels great, and it was what I needed to do. I will not say that I am now skinny and wear a size 6. That would be completely unrealistic for my body type. I did wear a size six a few years ago, but I was also starving myself and obsessive about working out. I cannot say that I was in any way, healthy.

What should a realistic weight goal be?

  • What would make you feel good about yourself?
  • What are your age, height, and current weight?
  • What looks good on you?
  • What would help your clothes fit nicer?
  • What would decrease a risk of heart disease or diabetes?

To me, presenting myself as a well put together classy lady means you have clothes that are well made, look nice, and fit the size you are. Don’t try to fit a size 16 into size 12 clothes. If you wear a size 16, then buy 16. They will flatter your shape and look so much nicer on you.

Take over-all good care of yourself. Eat healthy whole foods. The reason we do this is that our bodies need and process this food well. They have more nutrients and vitamins. Your body craves whole foods. I don’t mean boring food. You will find a huge variety of flavors, textures, and food combinations.

Do you know you can eat and eat and eat and still be malnourished? So many food choices out there do not give our bodies what they need. Malnourished people are not just skinny people; they are people who don’t eat the right foods.

Take good care of your self in your daily routines.

  • Take care of your skin and hair.
  • Take good care of your clothes.

I never thought that I would be using so much lotion in my life. I was a teen with terrible skin, and anything that had oil of any kind would not touch my skin. Now I love the lotions and how they help maintain a moisture balance in my skin.

I have my hair and makeup routine down to 15 minutes. Don’t do your makeup to look like someone else. Do light natural makeup to look the most beautiful you. I don’t leave the house often with out taking care of my routine. Not out of vanity, but so I feel good about myself. You never know who you will meet when you go out, even to the grocery store. First impressions can matter. But more do you feel good about yourself. Confidence is one of the most attractive qualities to a woman.

I would not feel good about myself if I met a possible client, and I was wearing pj pants, a messy t-shirt, and flip flops with no makeup and messy hair. I care about this for myself. Not to impress anyone else.

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I do take time to iron my clothes. I don’t like to, but I do care about how I present myself. I take care to shop carefully to minimize how much needs pressing. When they do need it, I pull out the ironing board, the clothes and I watch a movie. A trick I learned from my dad. Before I know it, I am done, and my clothes are ready for the next week or two. I also pull things out of the dryer right away and immediately hang up anything that might wrinkle — even my t-shirts.

What does it mean to be beautiful?

It isn’t your weight. That doesn’t matter. It is your kindness and self-confidence. I know more men looking for meaningful relationships will fall in love with a women’s self-confidence before the beauty of her size and shape. When you feel good about yourself, it shows.

Stop comparing yourself. Appreciate your uniqueness. See the beauty you have right now. Take care of yourself and know you are the best you ever. You can always take steps to improve. We all can. Don’t eat if you’re not hungry; eat when you are. But stop when you are satisfied, not when you are full. It will set in about 20 minutes later.

Move your body. You can do stretching in your bed, watching tv, or anywhere, no equipment needed. You can walk anywhere. If it is too hot, there are shaded parks or even malls that provide plenty of room. Just begin with the first step.

Please leave a comment on some of your tricks that works. What tips do you have for self-care to share with others? I would love to hear.

Love and Blessings,
Ashley J. Spurgeon

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5 Replies to “How to be Beautiful”

  1. I love this! The best way to be beautiful is to take care of the body you’re in at the moment, not wait for your future body that’s supposed to be 10 lbs lighter or heavier.

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