We have two inner voices. Remember the old cartoon where the devil would sit on one shoulder and the angel on the other? That is how it often feels. The good inner voice is our intuition. A powerful yet quiet inner voice that helps guide and direct us to make decisions. I know every time I ignore this voice; I make a bad or at least not my best decision.
But we are not talking about the guiding inner voice of intuition today. We are talking about the evil gremlin inner voice that shouts, “you are not good enough, “You are not smart enough,” “You are not pretty enough,” Gremlins go on and on with you are fat, you are boring or not funny. Then the gremlin pulls out the big guns and says things like, “You are not a good parent,” “You’re a failure as a wife,” “You’ll never amount to anything because you are not anyone special.”
The problem with the inner voice dialogue is that it has been repeating for years. If you hear anything enough, you begin to believe it is the truth. These are all lies, so what can we do?
Go to counseling; the inner voice tells you that you are a basket case. LOL! Hire a life coach; “What you can’t figure this stuff out yourself?” I say, “just shut up already.” But like a pesky little brother, the gremlin taunts at an even greater level because now he has found a soar nerve.
Oh, by the way, counseling and life coaching is a huge step of self-love and a show of strength, not weakness.
What is the origin of personal gremlins? It starts when we are young. Well, meaning parents, teachers, and others who caution because they do not want to see us get hurt, rejected, or disappointed. The warning s are not meant to be mean; they might just come from their own inner gremlins and negative past experiences. Parents and teachers do not intentionally birth our inner gremlins.
WARNING PARENTS: Be mindful of what you say to your children. All children have a life of great potential. Don’t birth a gremlin that will grow and consume the bright possibilities.
How do we quiet the Gremlins?
- Understand that they are not the real you or the truth about you.
- Get to know who you are. Open your eyes to YOU. Journal, think deeply, meditate, pray. If you find that you do not like who you have been, then change it. “You must be the change you want to see in your life.” (Author Unknown) No one is going to do it for you.
- Be kind, loving, caring, helpful, strong, decisive. What ever words describe who you want to be.
You may not be there yet; you may need the support of a good coach to help you get started. The more you take time and steps to get to know who you are and become the best version of yourself (Being Exceptionally YOU) the more you will be able to recognize the lies of the gremlins and quiet them down. You will develop self-confidence, stronger self- esteem and feel a lot better about who you know yourself to be.
Remember that actions speak louder than words.
Let’s create a scenario.
You want to introduce yourself to someone. Your gremlin may have all kinds of nasty things to say on the way to the introductions. The anxiety builds, and you can do one of two things.
- Let the gremlin win, which gives him a greater foothold.
- Push past your fear and doubt and smile, put out your hand, and introduce yourself.
You can silence the gremlin for a little while because you acted bravely. Maybe the introduction didn’t go well. That is OK as I said, BRAVE! Be proud. It is not easy to do something new when you are fighting anxiety. Next time will go better because you know you can do it.
Add that to your journal of “Who I am,” I AM BRAVE.
Those darn gremlins will always be there telling you lies about yourself. But as you go down the path of self-discovery, getting to know who you are, you will have the strength to act despite what your evil inner voice is telling you, Now, you know better.
If this is an area causing your pain and unhappiness, then it would be a great time to work with a life coach. Coaches are specifically trained to help people find the path to being better. Coaches use structured and proven systems that have been working for hundreds even thousands of people. It may be the best investment you have ever made in yourself. You have so much potential, and a coach can lovingly give you the tools to release your bright horizon. Fill out the form below to request your free consultation.
Love & Blessings,
Ashley J Spurgeon