Anger and Sadness are Exhausting

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As years go by we interact with people and have experiences that builds up hurt, anger and guilt.

You can feel yourself losing trust in people, feeling resentful and angry that life has not treated you fairly.

Over time you see this effect your relationships, your work life, your finances, your health and your personal well-being.

You may hear yourself thinking, “I am a good person, so why is my life so unhappy?”

How can you turn this horrible constant feeling around?

Honestly it takes time and consistently bringing yourself back to where you want and need to be. I have heard it said that it takes 30-days to make or break a habit.

  1. Stop living in the past.
    Have you made your past hurts and experiences a part of your identity? It is time to let them go. Don’t live your life as a wounded person. Live hopeful in the future. How has your path given your strength, courage and empathy for others? Start living with those views of yourself.
  2. Forgive yourself.
    Guilt is a huge weight around your neck. You made mistakes. We all have. But, if you are unwilling to forgive yourself you will struggle to find any sense of personal peace. Guilt keeps us stuck in the past as well. Not hoping in a bright future. We cannot change what has happened. We can learn, grow, and become better for it.
  3. Create a future you can believe in.
    Build a relationship with your future self. Meditate and see yourself about 10 years from now. See yourself as older and wiser, healthier, and more self-assured. Seek advice from the one who has hind sight. Have conversations asking how to get there. What steps need to be taken? Use your future self as a personal mentor. Who will know you and your potential better?
  4. Where is God?
    Always there! If you don’t have a connection with God He/She is just waiting. You have been absent from God not the other way around. The invitation was sent out a very long time ago. Slow down, look at nature, watch small children play, pray, meditate and connect with God. Seek peace, healing and guidance. You will be surprised at the results.
  5. Be a loving person.
    This one thing will be the greatest change in your life that costs you absolutely nothing. It is not hard so just do it. Smile more, open doors for people, say something nice just because, help someone out. The more you are acting as a loving person the more you become one. The personal healing that comes from this is profound over time. How you feel about yourself shifts and how people look at you changes. Give it a try.
  6. Ge Grateful
    It is so easy to see everything we do not have. Focus instead on what you do have. Start a gratitude inventory when you start to feel negative or blue. Begin listing what you have at this moment. Not 5 minutes ago or 5 minutes from now, right now only. I’ll give an example.
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My family has food to eat, My bills are paid, we have a comfortable home, clothes to wear a car to drive and a job I enjoy. That is all that matters right now in this moment. Nothing else. I am so grateful that life is full and good.

Love & Blessings, 
Ashley J Spurgeon

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